My belief is that couples need new tools in the 21st century to thrive in their relationships. With
divorce hovering around 51%, couples need solid understanding and skills steeped in research
to be above the norm.
I have found one source, The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real, to meet these needs.
Terrence details with great clarity the need for active engagement between couples. If we want
responsibility, vitality, emotional sharing and mutual support in our intimate relationship, then
we need a fresh game plan to beat the odds.
Listed below are some wisdom highlights from Terrence Real.
Losing strategies include:
- Needing to be right
- Controlling your partner
- Unbridled self expression
Winning strategies include:
- Shifting from complaint to request
- Speaking out with love and savvy
- Responding with generosity
- Empowering each other
I highly recommend this book for all couples. It is also a helpful adjunct, for those couples who
are seeking, or are engaged in couples /marital therapy.